Of breaking patterns and pushing boundaries

Did you know that most people have a subconscious routine while bathing? They by default start at one place and end at another EVERY SINGLE DAY without even knowing about it? Nope, I am not making it up.

Most of us have routines that have become a part of us. These routines have become such an integral part that we neither notice it nor can do without it. I have my routine – 3 glasses of coffee a day. When I don’t get that, I get restless and something feels off. Ask my friends (who have graciously let me indulge in my coffee obsession in their kitchen at odd hours). But, how hard is it to break this pattern? How hard is it to NOT do something that’s essentially you?

Had I asked myself this question on that night of September 2015, when my husband and I sat huddled looking at his phone, I wouldn’t have known the answer. It was a job offer that broke every pattern and routine that I had. Of course, it was an offer that was too exciting and meaty to say no to. I took a deep breath and told my husband ‘let’s do this’. Words that my aunt had once told me echoed in my head. She said “Keep moving, keep travelling. It gives you a certain kind of experience that nothing else can.”

23 items from Madras to Coimbatore. This was a very emotional moment for both of us.

So, we packed our bags in a matter of two weeks and moved from the city that was everything me to a place I knew nothing about. I am a true blue Madrasi. I spent 28 years of my life in Madras and it was me. The shops, the malls, the beaches, the hangouts, the heartbreaks, everything was etched like blood vein running like a map. I left it all in a jiffy and in these two years, I hardly regret the decision. It also meant leaving family and friends behind. THAT was something that I relied on like my 3 glasses of coffee. But we found the challenge of a new life more tempting than the comfort of the known one.

Surprisingly, 2 years after the move from Madras to Coimbatore, we are ready to pack our bags again. Another city and another extremely challenging role beckons us and I am sure in some corner of my heart, that I will make that home too!

The thing is, breaking patterns and routines can pump extreme amounts of adrenaline inside you. I know friends who have left the comforts of home and homeland, in search of a new and thrilling life. ‘Don’t be afraid to step out of the known’ is what I am telling myself yet another time, as I decide on new curtains, new cot and sofa layouts and ‘where do I buy groceries now’ with the better half! <3

This post is my first entry into the Write Tribe Problogger October Challenge. Let’s see how I fare 😀 #writebravely #writetribeproblogger

~The Lazy Parent

Psst! I am going to put down 30 instances (all through October) of my life in Coimbatore. There will be photographs, notes and more. Tag along for I am sure you will like it. 🙂

18 comments / Add your comment below

  1. Whichever city you go to, I hope life adjusts itself into a new pattern (breakable one). 😀 It’s good to have a routine, one just needs to be ready to break it when needed.

  2. Nicely written, Anjana and a great start to the challenge! I loved this take on the prompt. Sometimes breaking patterns is as much necessary for our onward journey in life. I didn’t know about that bathing thing – gotta check that out :p

  3. So true, Anjana. Going against your set pattern and doing something different gives you such an adrenaline rush. Glad to read that your move worked out for you. All the best, for the next one. 😊

  4. I was apprehensive when I moved to Kolkata from Ahmedabad for the first time . But then now after moving to Gurgaon and now Mumbai, I know that though it’s difficult to pack bags and adjust to different cities but the experiences you gain are more than the troubles. Not to forget the friendships one makes. Happy moving to you! Farewell!

    1. This is the most encouraging message I’ve got 😇 thank you. It’s the hope that keeps us going

  5. Lovely! First of all, many congratulations to you on your move and all the best. Indeed, it is breaking patterns that is more interedting than following patterns for me 🙂 always has been. That’s why I can totally relate to the adrenaline you talk about! Stay well, enjoy!

  6. Moving to a new city – the very idea excites me as I hate to get stuck in one particular place or pattern for long. Here’s wishing you the best for new adventures 🙂

  7. I think breaking of one pattern leads to creating of another one. Unlike you I have never spent more than 3-4 years in a single city. We have always kept on moving and this has become a pattern for me since my childhood. On the other hand, Staying in one place for long scares me!

  8. Well that’s the great thing about breaking a pattern..you never know where it might lead you. Getting out of your comfort zone might be exactly what you need sometimes. All the best on your upcoming move.

  9. Tell me about it..we move every three years. Infact have moved to a new place last month itself. The packing process is difficult but it is wonderful to set up a new house. Wish you all the joy in the new city! Lovely post 🙂

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